Originally scheduled for November 13
It very much
depends upon the denomination, of course. But it has become common
to include a communion ceremony between the bride and the groom at a
Christian wedding. Normally, only the bride and groom receive this
communion. But it is so special that we even have wedding furniture
designed specifically for the purpose of having the wedding couple
kneel and take their first communion together as husband and wife.
full of symbolism. It is fruitful to examine, therefore, what
communion means in the context of a Christian wedding.
Christian wedding centers on Jesus Christ. We can see within his
attributes why communion fit so appropriately within the wedding.
is important to see that authority in the marriage is hierarchical.
We have regrettably strayed from the tradition where a bride
promises to “love, honor and obey”, but this is the intention God
had from the beginning. Taking communion recognizes the fact that
the husband’s authority over his wife comes from Christ — and is
therefore not absolute but subject to the commands of his Lord. It
is for this reason that Peter tells the bride not to give way to
fear (1st Peter 3:5-6). If the husband exercises his
authority in accordance with the commands of Christ, her obedience
is no great burden.
The greatest example of love ever given was Christ’s sacrifice on
the cross — which is what we remember at communion. This sets the
example of love, particularly for the husband who is told to love
his wife as Christ loved the church. As a particularly pragmatic
point, one of the essential ingredients in love is forgiveness. It
will not take long before the married couple need to practice this.
We celebrate communion until the Lord returns. It should remind us
that those with whom we celebrate our fellow heirs of the grace of
life (1st Peter 3:7). It is grand to know that your
husband or wife is destined to live forever. This might even
increase the respect that one has for the other.
some lessons for the rest of us in this also. We too must consider
the Lordship of Christ. Many of us are happy to acknowledge Christ
as our Savior, but gently skip over the part about “Lord.” Often
enough this comes from our lack of courage. But Christ is your Lord,
you should fear God — and dread naught.
exhibited love — none greater — on the cross. This is our example;
do we act like it? Similarly, we might ask if we live in the power
of the resurrection, treating our brothers and sisters as those who
are going to live forever, not just a temporary nuisance. There is a
reason we are taught to examine ourselves at communion. Reflect upon
these things; change what must be changed and draw closer to Christ.