Husband - Tyrant or Prince
1 Corinthians 11:1-16
There is a recurring phenomenon in the
church. Some doctrine will swiftly become abominable to the
world; the church will produce “explainers” who tell all that
the Bible didn’t really mean what it said there; and – after a
generation or two – someone “rediscovers” the truth in the
Bible. In the meanwhile many are led astray. In our time, one
such “error” is the submission of women to their husbands. Here
we encounter it in Paul’s words:
(1 Cor 11:1-16 NIV) Follow my example, as I
follow the example of Christ. {2} I praise you for remembering
me in everything and for holding to the teachings, just as I
passed them on to you. {3} Now I want you to realize that the
head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,
and the head of Christ is God. {4} Every man who prays or
prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head. {5} And
every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered
dishonors her head--it is just as though her head were shaved.
{6} If a woman does not cover her head, she should have her hair
cut off; and if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair
cut or shaved off, she should cover her head. {7} A man ought
not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God;
but the woman is the glory of man. {8} For man did not come from
woman, but woman from man; {9} neither was man created for
woman, but woman for man. {10} For this reason, and because of
the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her
head. {11} In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of
man, nor is man independent of woman. {12} For as woman came
from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes
from God. {13} Judge for yourselves: Is it proper for a woman to
pray to God with her head uncovered? {14} Does not the very
nature of things teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a
disgrace to him, {15} but that if a woman has long hair, it is
her glory? For long hair is given to her as a covering. {16} If
anyone wants to be contentious about this, we have no other
practice--nor do the churches of God.
The key to understanding this passage is
found in verse one: the imitation of Christ. If we will keep his
example before our minds, the entire question will become much
easier to deal with. First, a review of the concept of
submission.
Submission
In general
Consistent readers will recall the general
principles of Christian submission:
·
All of us, as Christians,
are in submission – at least to Jesus Christ. That is
the very nature of being a Christian. Most of us are in
submission to many other authorities as well –
governments, church leadership, teachers – the list is
very long.
·
True submission is to true
(legitimate) authority – and that authority flows from
Christ, to whom all authority is given.
·
The nature of authority –
and hence the nature of submission – is determined by
the task assigned. Submission as a student is different
from submission as a wife.
·
With that task and authority
comes responsibility.
·
The one in authority must
always remember that such submission is voluntary; you
chose to become a Christian. As my mother tells my wife,
“you volunteered for this chicken outfit.”
·
The reason for submission is
sin. Policemen have authority because of it, for
example. Interestingly, the same rationale is given for
husbands having authority over their wives.
The human side of authority
All well and good, teacher – but how should
this work out in actual, day to day living?
·
Our model is that of Christ
– see verse one! – and his model is that of the
servant-leader. Therefore, any Christian leader
(including husband) should be a servant-leader.
·
The beneficiary of the
submission relationship – is the person in submission.
(That’s one difference between a prince and a tyrant).
·
The motivation of any
Christian leader – we cannot expect this from our
government – must be that of Christ: love.
·
And as Christ was exalted
for his obedience as a servant-leader, so God will
reward those servant-leaders who obey his commands. He
will also punish those who don’t.
Parallel essence
So what really rankles us about this
submission? Is it not that submission makes us feel inferior?
This may simply be a question of sinful pride, but for the sake
of those in authority we will assume not. (It’s a lot harder to
abuse submission than it is authority). In particular, does this
mean that woman is inferior to man?
·
Let’s look at the example we
are given: Jesus Christ. Is He inferior to the one to
whom He is in submission, God the Father? As touching
his manhood, yes; as touching his divinity, no – that
was the ancient formula. Even though He is equal to God
the Father, He made himself nothing and became like us –
and was obedient even to death on the cross. With such
an example of submission before us, can we really
conclude that submission means inferiority?
·
Paul makes much the same
point here. In one verse it sounds like woman is
completely inferior; in the next point he says that man
comes from woman (which makes them equal) and then he
gives the whole thing up and says that all is from God.
Like Christ and the Father, man and woman have the same
essence, as Aquinas would put it.
Remember that submission and authority exist
because of sin. We often hear repeated the verse “that all are
one in Christ Jesus.” In Christ Jesus we are without sin, and
therefore we are indeed equal. But because sin exists, God has
created marriage – a submission relationship – to deal with it.
Interestingly, in all the references I can find, the sinful
nature for which this is prescribed is that of the husband.
The conclusion of the matter: the wife is not
inferior to the husband. She is in submission to him.
Why, then, do we have so much trouble with
this?
Our World’s View
If you were to ask this question of most
Christians, you’d get a variety of answers.
·
Most would point to the
radical feminists of our day, claiming this to be the
problem. There is no doubt that the public school system
proclaims the feminist agenda in strident terms,
beginning at the earliest age. But can we not dig
deeper?
·
Perhaps the underlying
problem is our sinful nature – though feminists deny the
existence of sin (it’s old fashioned, you know). It is
just barely possible that feminism is the second wrong
desperately attempting to make a right. If Christian
husbands modeled Christ to their wives, would we see
such things in their children?
·
Remember: Satan cannot
create anything – he can only twist what God has
created. Therefore, let us examine his twistings.
Twistings
Some of the twistings that we see:
·
We are much enamored of the
legal fiction that all are equal – as the Declaration of
Independence puts it, “that all men are created equal.”
It is a very useful legal fiction; but in the church we
must put aside fiction and deal with reality. We are all
equal in Christ – but we are not all interchangeable
parts. Male is not interchangeable with female.
·
As Americans, we hold as a
matter of principle that it is our duty to rebel against
tyranny. But we have now twisted that – making rebellion
against authority to be a positive good. You don’t think
so? Visit any nearby public high school. Rudeness and
rebellion against authority are now considered a normal
part of growing up.
·
We even twist the words we
use so that their meanings will end up as opposites. A
rose by any other name would smell as sweet? Consider a
few examples. Does marriage really mean two lesbians?
Does family mean any conglomeration of people under one
roof? Does love really mean nothing but sexual passion
excuses all?
Why is the sexual distinction so important?
Paul here seems to be complaining of some
rather trivial things. The length of hair, after all, is
something subject to fashion. I submit for your consideration
the following thoughts:
Design Principle
·
You can use a hammer to
drive a screw into wood. Does that make a hammer a
screwdriver? No. It makes it a tool misused. Just
because it works doesn’t mean it was designed to work
that way.
·
Men and women are designed
differently – and therefore we need to recognize that
difference and deal with it
in the manner intended by
the Designer. Just because we can make a woman do a
man’s job doesn’t mean that we should make her do it.
Right use of authority
This is not a matter of whether or not women
can teach math, or fly airplanes, or other such things. This is
a matter of spiritual authority – which has eternal
consequences. The man was given this authority, I submit, for at
least these reasons:
·
First, for the sake of the
children. If children know that their parents are
“equal” they will play one off against the other. They
will quickly learn that authority is to be manipulated,
not obeyed. I leave the results of this to your
imagination.
·
Next, this authority is
given as a corrective to the man’s physical strength and
arrogance. Does this surprise you? Remember the nature
of authority: it is to be exercised in servant
leadership. The example set before the man is that of
Christ himself.
·
This authority is also given
to correct a woman’s protectiveness of her children.
Submission in symbolism
The submission shown here is largely
symbolic. In verse six Paul talks of shaving a woman’s head. You
might ask why; but remember – men go bald. The point is simply
that if the woman is going to act like a man, then disgrace her
by making her look like a man. It is a measure of the depravity
of our society that many think this a good thing.
Our forebears would have understood this much
more clearly. They understood the difference, and the importance
of the difference. That’s because they understood the difference
between the Bride, the church, and Christ. God has painted on
the living canvas of our bodies a picture of his love for the
church; let us not mar the painting.
Tyrant – or prince
I cannot leave this subject without a word
for the men. I frame it in terms of a quiz for the women, but it
really applies to men. Ladies, do you know the difference
between being married to a tyrant – or a prince?
·
The tyrant does not have
legitimate authority; the prince does. If you have
legitimate authority, it comes from Christ. Therefore,
if you are married to a prince, your husband recognizes
Christ’s authority over him and is obedient to Christ –
especially in the things of marriage. Does your husband
have the authority of Christ? Then he is a prince.
·
The tyrant’s motive is his
own self-interest. The prince cares for his own. His
motive is his love for his people. Does your husband
place his love for you above his own self-interest? Then
he is a prince.
·
Finally, the tyrant
considers himself his own best example. The prince knows
that Christ is his example. Does your husband imitate
his Lord and Savior in servant leadership? Does he say
to you, follow me, as I follow Christ? Then he is a
prince.
So I leave it to you: is your husband a
tyrant, or a prince?
