Readers
with military experience will understand why I do not consider basic training,
as delivered by the Unites States Army, to be a model of educational
technique. Most of what I learned about the art of legitimate killing has
faded with time. But there is one particular lesson I do remember.
The
session began with our drill sergeant holding a pugil stick. Imagine a Q-tip
about six feet long with a boxing glove at each end. It was the training tool
to teach us the various maneuvers with the rifle and bayonet. There are over a
hundred such maneuvers, and we quickly gave up trying to write them down in our
little notebooks. Each maneuver had two demonstrations: “this is the knife
thrust to the groin” was followed by “this is the counter to the knife thrust
to the groin.” So it went, until the very last maneuver: “this is the butt
stroke to the head.” But no counter.
There’s
always one fool whose curiosity overrides his sense. That was me. Like a moth
to the flame, I asked, “Drill sergeant, what’s the counter to the butt stroke
to the head?”
“I’m
glad you asked that, troop. Come up here and I’ll demonstrate it.” He handed
me a pugil stick, made sure that I knew how to deliver the butt stroke to the
head, and then asked, “Ready?”
I
was about to reply when he took the bottom end of his pugil stick and rammed it
through my chin, sending me flying backwards. When the laughter subsided, the
drill sergeant said, “The counter is to hit the other guy first.”
I
suspect Mary and Joseph felt the same way about this incident. Of all the
things of Jesus’ boyhood, we know only this one – and I suspect it’s because
it’s the one with the pain associated with it.
Now His parents went to Jerusalem every year at
the Feast of the Passover. And when He became twelve, they went up there according to the custom of the Feast; and
as they were returning, after spending the full number of days, the boy Jesus
stayed behind in Jerusalem. But His parents were unaware of it, but supposed
Him to be in the caravan, and went a day's journey; and they began looking for Him among their relatives and
acquaintances. When they did not find Him, they returned to Jerusalem looking
for Him. Then, after three days they found Him in the temple, sitting in the
midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions. And
all who heard Him were amazed at His understanding and His answers. When they
saw Him, they were astonished; and His mother said to Him, "Son, why have
You treated us this way? Behold, Your father and I have been anxiously looking
for You." And He said to them, "Why is it
that you were looking for Me? Did you not know that I had to be in My Father's house?" But
they did not understand the statement which He had made to them. And He went
down with them and came to Nazareth, and He continued in subjection to them;
and His mother treasured all these
things in her heart. And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in
favor with God and men.
(Luk 2:41-52 NASB)
We
shall see lessons learned by his parents, his teachers, and by his example.
Lessons
from his parents
As
far as I can determine, God never lays out the qualifications for raising
Jesus. What does it take to be the earthly parents of the Son of God? The
Omniscient One likely used great care in picking out this couple. Let us see
what might have made them find favor with God:
- Both
were obedient to the Law. This is the solid ground of faith, for
without obedience it is impossible to have faith, and without faith it is impossible
to please God.
- Indeed,
they went beyond the Law’s requirements. By the Law of Moses, all males
(usually defined as twelve years old and above) were required to present
themselves at the Temple for Passover. But this family went as a group.
Mary’s presence was not required; indeed, some argument could be made for
her to stay home and watch the other children, all of whom would have been
too young to stay by themselves.
- It
is apparent that they were not alone in this, for they assumed that their
son was in the company of friends and relatives – also traveling back from
the Passover. They lived in a community of faith and obedience.
It’s
a solid example.
“Unaware
of it”
It
may seem remarkable to parents of a generation in which children are abducted
with all too great a frequency, but they let this twelve year old young man
watch after himself, expecting him to check in at nightfall. This tells us
something about their parenting style:
- It’s
obvious that they trusted him. Most of us would consider this a lucky
accident, to have a child who could be trusted so much at twelve. But
remember that in their society, this was the age at which one began to
assume the responsibilities of a man. Their relationship was one of
trust, not one of glowering mistrust.
- From
that we can conclude that their parenting style was designed to produce
adults – not adult size children. They expected him to act in a manner
that we today would find unusual. As my wife and I put it, they weren’t
raising chickens for Colonel Sanders, they were raising eagles to fly.
- Even
when they find him, you can see the reaction they give. These are pious
people; they find him in the temple – and they want to know why. They
even go so far as to explain why (their feelings). It’s an adult
conversation. Can you imagine the effect this would have on most twelve
year olds today? Most parents would be screaming, but they are treating
him as one who has shown himself responsible.
“Did
not understand”
One
thing that resonates with me: they did not understand the answer. Has that
ever happened to you – that Christ gave you an answer you didn’t understand?
They were looking for him with anguish; he was where he was supposed to be.
Sometimes
God does that with us. Bob Henneman relates a story about how the Coast Guard
solved the mystery of the sinking of the Great Lakes freighter Edmund
Fitzgerald.
What prompted the reassessment of the sinking is that a few years back the
Atlantic Gypsum Conveyor, a conveyer ship full of gypsum, was sailing up the
East Coast. A conveyer ship is similar to a tanker, but with onboard
conveyer belts below the main deck to self-load dry cargo like chalk, gypsum,
talc, etc. A door at the side of the stern allows the ship to offload
herself to train cars or hoppers on the dock. The crew of this
particular conveyor ship had failed to properly secure this door. In only
slightly rough seas, each wave dumped a little more water into the conveyer
passage and on into the holds. The gypsum quickly absorbed it, thus
becoming very heavy. A Coast Guard plane happened by, and noticed that
the ship was very low in the water. It started to video tape the ship,
and radioed the crew to offer assistance. The crew responded, basically
saying "Help? Why would we need help? Things couldn't be
better." The Coast Guard pointed out that the ship was about to
sink, which the ship's master did not believe until it was too late.
About 10 minutes later the ship dipped her bows into a trough, and never came
back up. She rolled over and was on the bottom of the ocean inside of a
minute. I don't recall the number of casualties. Had that Coast
Guard plane not happened along and alerted the captain and crew, they might
have all disappeared without a trace, creating yet another mysterious ship
loss.
As a result of this incident, the NTSB decided to re-examine the Edmund
Fitzgerald with new video technology which was not available the last time they
looked at her wreck. The NTSB also had the Coast Guard revoke the
operating certificate of the conveyer ship's sister ship until the door was
modified to prevent a repeat accident.
We
are often in the position of that ship’s master: Why should I need help?
God’s answer is not understood – until the ship sinks.
You
can see that in one little phrase – that Mary treasured these things in her
heart. She did not understand at the time – but she knew that it was
important. God gives no trivial answers.
Lessons
via his teachers
There
is a temptation to interpret this passage as the young Jesus telling off the
hypocrites in the Temple. Instead, he shows them the proper respect for
teachers:
- He
listens to them. If the teachers of Christ have any one request of
you, that’s it. Listen. It is not only respect, it is for your profit.
Even if all that we do were simply to gratify our own egos, it would still
be of benefit to you.
- He
questions them. And I thank him for the example. Please, ask
questions; it’s the best way for the teacher to know what’s going on in
your mind. It is also profitable to the teacher; often, you will point
out that which he had not considered.
- You
are to do this, even if you know the teacher to be a hypocrite. Our Lord
sets the example and gives this as command.
“All
who heard”
Permit
me two points, as the teacher.
- Please
note the word, “all.” The word of God is for all, our Lord not denying
any who will come. No one need be turned away; all should be made
welcome.
- Please
note the word, “heard.” Are we listening?
The
example of Christ
Older
scholars often referred to the life of Christ as being “exemplary.” By this
they meant not only that it was morally correct but also that it is to be an
example to us. We ask, “What would Jesus do?” Then we forget to look in the
Gospels to find out what He did.
In
his Father’s house
Over
the front door of my house is a wooden sign, engraved with our family name. My
children call this home; it is always thought of as “returning home.” The Temple is the place where God put his name; it has Jesus’ Father’s name on the sign over
the door, so to speak. It’s where He belongs. But there is more to it; the
house of the Lord goes by many names. Here are three:
- It
is the house of prayer.
In my youth churches rarely had locks on the doors. I asked about
this once; the answer was simply that we did not know when someone might
come in need of prayer.
- It
is a house of sacrifice.
We speak much of giving, even giving generously. These people
understood that tithes and offerings were one thing; sacrifices another.
We do not hear much about sacrifice these days.
- It
is the “Tabernacle of Witness”.
It is the place where you can see visibly the witness God bears against
sin. In the first temple, it was the Ark of the Covenant, also called the
“ark of the testimony.” In our time, you need but look forward to see the
Cross at the center – God’s testimony against our sin.
Jesus
expected them to know where He was
Little
noted in most studies of this passage is the reaction of our Lord. He
obviously thought his parents should have been smart enough to figure out where
he would be. What can we learn from this?
- He
must have had a track record for this – one who lingered in the synagogue,
for example, learning all he could. How many of us could say that we
would linger at church? Do we hunger and thirst after righteousness?
- He
also expected that they would know that he put God first – even ahead of
them. If the center of the wheel is in the right place, all the spokes
fit.
- Indeed,
“God first” should be our witness. It should stand out and be obvious.
He
continued in obedience
- This
obedience is a model to us – children or adults. Obedience (or
subjection, in our translation) is not a burden even to the Christ. It is
the first step in knowing God.
- Note,
please, that he “continued” in subjection. The point is not clear in all
translations, but the original has it correctly. It does not mean he
obeyed his parents in this one instance, but that he continued to obey
them. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.
- Note
also: the trip to the Temple must have been a “mountain top experience”
for the young Jesus. How calmly he makes the trip down! Can we say that
we are willing to come down from the mountain top experience – and be the
same person in the valley of troubles below?
Growing
It
is not right to expect that a Christian can achieve maturity in a day. This
teacher certainly is taking longer than that. But see how Jesus grew:
- He
grew in stature, physically – but also in wisdom. Did you know that the
book of Proverbs was given to provide wisdom for the young?
If he needed to, surely the rest of us do.
- He
grew in favor with men. As Christians, we should seek to be those who are
known for doing what is right. Combined with a gentle spirit, we should
find ourselves more and more in favor with those around us.
- He
grew in favor with God. Surely here is a testimony that he is fully
human!
So,
let me ask you: are you growing in God these days?